Wedding season is here! With that in mind, I wanted to compile some “Do’s and Don’t’s,” a little bit of advice and tips on planning a bachelorette party or preparing for a wedding.
I don’t want to fill the role of what a wedding planner does or would be telling you because let’s be honest… The first thing I want people to know is that you should 100% get a wedding planner if your budget will allow it. It’s a stressful time for anyone planning a wedding, and it’s worth every penny!! Tyler would tell you this 10 times over, and he’s not one to want to spend unnecessary dollars. After recently getting married, and also having been in a few weddings, I would HIGHLY advise everyone to splurge on the following things:
- WEDDING PLANNER
- You don’t necessarily need a planner in the city that your wedding venue is located. Any GOOD planner can plan a wedding in any location from anywhere.
- A planner not only PLANS out the logistics of your wedding, but they help bring your ideas & visions together to fruition. Most importantly, their job is to go above and beyond to relieve any stress, and prevent or take care of any situation that might end up being stressful for you. We were fortunate enough to find our wedding planner, Brooke Keegan, who (excuse my French) kicked A**. I didn’t have a care in the world on our wedding day because of Brooke and her teams’ tireless preparation and execution of everything from start to finish. They made me feel like I was a princess!
- Your wedding day is a day you and your family members should enjoy, and not work or stress. A good wedding planner plans and prepares so that the bridal party, their families, and the bride and groom can be present.
The Knot: Hubbard Wedding Feature
- Find photographer(s) whose work you love, but also, photographer(s) you’ll enjoy being around. They’ll be with you throughout your whole wedding day. We loved ours so much we became besties with them! The Grovers captured EVERY SINGLE moment, and quickly too. We never had to stand around or repeat a pose or special moment for a photo op. They nailed it! I believe this is something you should definitely splurge on.
The Grovers: Feature + Photos
- Finding a good videographer is just as important as finding a good photographer. We were so thankful for Artisan Productions. They were able to capture every aspect and detail of our wedding, but most importantly, they captured the love that was being shared on our special day. Not just between Tyler and myself, but between all of our friends and family that were gathered there to celebrate with us.
People Country: Feature + Wedding Video Clip
- If you have an obsession with flowers like I do, this is an area you’ll want to splurge on a little. One of our dear friends, Tam Ashworth of Isari Flower Studio, is someone I love and trust. She knows me and my style so well. All I had to tell her was that we had a white/blush color scheme… And to “Do. Your. Magic. Tam!” I think it’s important to give creative people just a little direction of what you want and then let them do what they do best. If you try to be too controlling, you’ll never be satisfied with the outcome, and you’re ultimately not letting the expert do their job.
- HAIR & MAKEUP
- DUH! Who doesn’t want to look and feel beautiful on their big day?! If you have a favorite hair stylist or makeup artist, book them! ASAP. Your wedding day is the day you want to feel beautiful and comfortable in your own skin. This is not the day to try out someone or something new for hair+makeup. If someone cakes on your makeup because they’re trying to make you look “flawless” rather than yourself, you’re not going to feel like you, and therefore, you’ll be thinking about that the entire night rather than having the confidence you should on your wedding day. Thank God for my hair guru, Ali at The Dry House Nashville, and Britt Davis in Sun Valley, ID. I didn’t have to worry about my hair or makeup… I knew it was going to turn out beautifully with those two on my side!
THE DO’S & DON’T’S
- Hire a wedding planner
- Hire a photographer/videographer you love – these are the moments you will cherish, and want to look back on with your children and family one day.
- Include your husband in the planning – Even though he could probably care less about flowers, table arrangements, and place settings, he’ll enjoy knowing that on the day of, he helped bring this special day together. And some husbands, like mine, may even really enjoy the design process!
- Get regular facials up until your wedding. See your dermatologist and get on their books for the months leading up to your special day.
- Do be a little selfish. It’s YOUR DAY (and your future spouse’s), so if you’re a people pleaser, this is not the time to cater to everyone else. Let everyone cater to you.
- Don’t bring an entourage when you go wedding dress shopping if you don’t want a million opinions – Your friends and family will end up convincing you of the dress they like over the one you love or feel good wearing.
- Don’t use/try new facial creams the week of the wedding.
- Don’t feel pressured to invite people that you aren’t necessarily close to or would want to spend time with on your wedding day. You and your future spouse don’t want to be meeting and introducing yourself to new people on your big day.
- Don’t stress, or at least try not to. The only thing you should be thinking about is that you get to marry the man (or woman) of your dreams!
I’ll keep this one short & sweet.
The meaning behind a bachelorette party is NOT to drink/party far beyond your limit or to make irrational decisions because ‘this is your last time as a “free” woman.’ No, this time is meant to be spent with your best girlfriends, enjoying the company of one another and sharing this special time before they stand next to you as you and your husband become one.
For the bridesmaids…
Ladies, find out what the bride loves to do and would want to do on her dream girls getaway weekend. I.e. If she’s a health nut, loves the outdoors, being active and loves being pampered, Vegas maybe isn’t the place to plan her bachelorette. Our dear friend that was just married loves all the things I just mentioned. So with that in mind, we planned her bachelorette in Nashville, doing things like: private TITLE Boxing class, lunch at AVO followed by a mani/pedi, blowouts, makeup, and a dinner party with a prix fixe menu of her favorite items. We hired a photographer for a couple of hours because let’s be honest, we all want memories captured along with a good Instagram picture to post.
Don’t encourage your bride to do things out of her norm, or make certain decisions because you’re viewing this as her last hurrah as a single lady. Use this time to celebrate your friendship, and show her how happy you are for her that she has found the love of her life.
Invite who YOU want at your wedding, not who your friends and family want there. This is your wedding day, and you don’t get that back. You want to be celebrating with your closest family and friends, the ones you’re actually close to. You don’t want to be meeting people on your wedding day. Our motto was that we wanted to be married in the presence of God, and our closest family and friends. If there’s someone who happens to create drama because they were not invited, that alone could be the confirmation you needed as to why they weren’t supposed to be at your wedding in the first place. A true friend would support any decision you make, especially on one of the biggest days of your life.
The Bridesmaid dilemma – Too often girls find themselves guilty about who they should and shouldn’t have in their wedding. It’s as simple as this: I asked myself, who are my friends now and who have been the permanent friends I have stayed in touch with throughout my life. The friends that I want to stand next to me when I marry the man of my dreams, not the girls I thought might be in my wedding when I was in high school or college. Don’t pick people because you feel obligated, pick them because you truly want them to stand next to you on your wedding day.
Lastly, and most importantly (I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times but it doesn’t hurt to get a reminder)… Go into your wedding with the mentality that it’s okay if little details aren’t perfect, or if something didn’t happen exactly how you had envisioned. Because at the end of the day, all that matters is that you get to marry the love of your life, and that you are celebrating this special day with family and friends! (Again, this is why I suggest having a wedding planner so even if things do go wrong, you won’t know or care about it because you know it’s being handled).
Last but very not least…. It’s YOUR wedding day! Do what YOU want!
People Country: Feature + Tour the Hubbard Farm House
Makeup: Britt Davis | Instagram: @britt_davis_beauty
Wedding Venue: Trail Creek | Instagram: @sunvalley